Wow… I could have wrote this article! It is weird to hear your own words and thoughts coming from someone else. The article is called How Expectations Change Relationships and you can read it here – (http://simplemom.net/how-expectations-change-relationships/).
One liners from the article:
- expectations are really just planned disappointments.
- Rather than spending a lot of time trying to change the wind in your life, adjust your sails.
- “I can only control me.”
I have been a saying for a while that expectations are relationship killers. I was finding this in my own life with the relationship with my brother. I would get so frustrated with him when he would not choose things like I thought he should, like to plan a visit with my family while his daughter was down visiting or how he spends his holidays like Christmas or Thanksgiving. And one day I woke up and realized my expectations of him were killing our relationship. So then I chose to let go of expectations and then when he did choose to spend time with me it was a gift and I was free to just enjoy the time and experience with him. And I have been letting go in other relationships as well (mostly with relatives) and find I get less stressed and worked up about things now.
From the comments section of the article:
- in marriage counseling, i always remember what our pastor told us. to NOT have any expectations. you just work on how to bless your spouse/friend/co-worker/whoever. what can you do for them to show them love? in that way, whenever they do something for you it’s a blessing and not something that was owed you. not an easy mindset to keep, but a good place to start.
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