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Tuesday, November 9, 2010

He Loves Me!

I am reading a new book called “He Loves Me! – learning to live in the Father’s affection” by Wayne Jacobsen (http://www.amazon.com/Loves-Learning-Live-Fathers-Affection/dp/0964729253).  I am really enjoying the book so far.  One very profound lesson was how we are threatened with hell as a way to make us follow God.  It seems to me it such a wrong way introduce people to a Father who truly loves them and wants a relationship with them.  Here is a great story from the book:

“Can a true friendship blossom under so grave a threat?  Let’s say I approach a recent acquaintance of mine, hoping to deepen our friendship.  I say to him, “I have really appreciated the time we’ve been able to spend together.  In fact, I’d like to see our relationship grow and maybe even become best friends.  How would you like to spend some time together over the next few months and see if that friendship develops?”  --- So far, so good!  But what if I added one more sentence: “I hope you do, because if you don’t, I’m going to hunt you down and torture you for the rest of your life.”  Hasn’t the invitation just taken an ominous turn?  Even if he wanted to explore the potential of a friendship with me, it has now been twisted by my threat.  What does that say about me?  How will he ever feel safe in a friendship cultivated on fear?”

Isn’t that a powerful picture of how we try to introduce God to people?  It is heart breaking.  So many people only fear God and never experience living in His love (living loved). 

PADDLE YOUR OWN CANOE

I have been participating in a workshop with my mom called Paddle Your Own Canoe.  Here is a description:

Paddle Your Own Canoe

Self-management of a Chronic Health condition. A six week program (2 1/2 hours/week) empowering individuals to become more effective self-managers of a chronic health condition.
- teaches you the skills needed to manage day-day challenge of living with a long term health condition;
- taught by trained volunteers;
Programs are led by trained volunteer some of which may be living with a chronic condition themselves.

http://www.albertahealthservices.ca/services.asp?pid=service&rid=1008201

The first week we covered the following topics:

  1. an overview of self-management and chronic health conditions
  2. making an action plan
  3. using your mind to manage symptoms

I loved the idea of the action plan (I want to use it with my kids to meet our educational goals).

ACTION PLAN FORM

In writing your action plan, be sure it includes

1.  what you are going to do;

2.  how much you are going to do;

3.  when you are going to do it;

4.  how many days a week you are going to do it.

For example:  This week I will walk (what) around the block (how much) before lunch (when) three times (how many).

This week I will _________________ (what)

__________________ (how much)

_______________________ (when)

______________________ (how many).

How confident are you? (0=not confident, 10=totally confident)  _____

 

Week 2 we covered:

  1. a new action plan
  2. problem solving
  3. difficult emotions
  4. fitness/exercise

PROBLEM SOLVING STEPS

  1. identify the problem
  2. list ideas to help problem
  3. select one
  4. assess the results
  5. substitute another idea
  6. utilize other resources
  7. accept that problem may not be solvable now

 

-  Dealing with difficult emotions such as anger, worry, frustration, depression, fear, shame, guilt, stress. helplessness.  You can try distraction, venting with a friend, journaling, gratitude, get moving, prayer, meditation, allow a 5 minute “pity party” and then move on to something else.

-  3 kinds of physical activity – 1.  flexibility; 2.  strengthening; 3.  endurance/aerobic – goal 120 minutes per week

-  activity goals per week (aerobic – 20-30 minutes 3-5 days per week) (8-10 strengthening activity 2-3 days per week; allow a one day rest per workout)

-  we did a brainstorming practice to help one lady with her exercise problem which was she couldn’t motivate herself to actually go out for a walk even though she knew it would be a benefit to her (she has fibromyalgia).

ideas to consider trying:  try an accountability partner, use music to make the time more enjoyable, get a dog or borrow a dog (they need to be walked), find ways to award yourself, research into reasons why you may be lacking motivation, set yourself up for success (baby steps), sign up for a group walking program, choose warm days.

 

 

 

 

rabbit trails for today…

 

1.  setting educational goals for your family - http://www.design-your-homeschool.com/Educational-Goals.html

2.  why I love my cat - http://thepioneerwoman.com/blog/2010/11/why-i-love-my-cat/

3.  the Holy Spirit in the book of Luke - http://www.alanknox.net/2010/11/the-holy-spirit-in-luke/

4.  what is a bruise? - http://kidshealth.org/kid/talk/qa/bruise.html - (Jordan asked me the other day why he doesn’t bruise so we went and did some research together.)

5.  seeking opportunities to “one another” - http://www.alanknox.net/2010/11/seeking-opportunities-to-one-another/

6.  reconciliation blog carnival - http://www.bridgetchumbley.com/2010/11/reconciliation-blog-carnival/

7.  free answers to just about any math problem - http://www.freelyeducate.com/2010/11/free-answers-to-just-about-any-math-problem.html

8.  entrepreneurism vs college?  - http://thrivinginthe21stcentury.blogspot.com/2010/11/entrepreneurism-vs-college.html

9.  reading books isn’t all its cracked up to be - http://homeschoolblogger.com/belindaletchford/783790/

10.  serving by observing - http://thesidos.blogspot.com/2010/11/serving-by-observing.html

11.  where happiness is found - http://www.marcandangel.com/2010/11/08/where-happiness-is-found/