Forming Their Normal

http://www.thebettermom.com/2012/05/forming-their-normal/

“….It got me thinking about how we are creating our kids’ normal….”

Two quotes from the post:

1.  “I’m talking about the kind of normal where it just seems natural, logical…second nature.
Habits formed.
Patterns woven.
Instincts chiseled.
Grooves worn into the foundation of every day life.”

 

2.  “But patterns and habits are difficult to break–
To change what has become our normal.
It was just a reminder that every single day
Little eyes are watching…
Little ears are listening…
My patterns, my responses, my norms…slowly becoming theirs.”

It’s the Little Things Posted

I enjoyed this article – “It’s the Little Things”.   http://blogs.babble.com/babble-voices/tanis-miller-hogwash-from-a-hoser-redneck-mommy-style/2012/05/24/the-little-things/

She writes, “it took me 15 years to figure out why I wanted to be married to the man but I finally articulated it.”  I love what she figured out. 

Nine Dangerous Things You Were Taught In School

http://www.forbes.com/sites/jessicahagy/2012/05/02/nine-dangerous-things-you-were-taught-in-school/

The people in charge have all the answers

Learning ends when you leave the classroom

The best and brightest follow the rules

What the books say is always true

There is a very clear, single path to success

Behaving yourself is as important as getting good marks

Standardized tests measure your value

Days off are always more fun than sitting in the classroom

The purpose of your education is your future career

treating them with kindness

Marc and Angel Hack Life - Practical Tips for Productive Living

When you have people speaking to you who are angry and upset, and you nevertheless remain very present and continue to treat them with kindness and respect, you place yourself in a position of great power. You become a means for the situation to be graciously diffused and wisely healed. A Zen teacher once said, "When somebody backs themselves into a corner, look the other way until they get themselves out. And then act as though it never happened." Allowing people to save face in this way and not reminding them of what they already know is not their most intelligent behavior is an act of great kindness. This is possible when we realize that people behave in such ways because they are in a place of great suffering. People react to their own thoughts and feelings and their behavior often has nothing directly to do with us. - via: http://www.marcandangel.com/